OK, the gauge is crap. I have 2020 3.0 & have 21K on it (about 1/2 towing). Mine takes forever to work down to 1/2 full on the bars, then almost instantly drops to one bar & throws low alarm. I bought a OBI plug in thing and it reads the def remaining. On mine, when the def tank drops 1st bar, it is really at about 80% remaining, then drops about 10% for each bar till about 1/2 on gauge. On mine when gauge reads 1/2 I am between 45% & 52% (the lower the tank gets, the more the OBI bounces around, assume sloshing in tank). Anyway, when mine hits 42% to 45% it drops to 1 bar & throws low alarm. I can usually BARELY get a 2.5 gallon jug in it & other times if filling at truck stop might get 3 gallons in. I have been in situations where I could not just stop & add, so ran past the 1 low bar & towing it dropped to empty & kinda locks up teh lower part of gauge and starts count down to speed reduction. I have never added more than 3.8 gallons.
On Def usage. Mine does not use much when not towing. When towing, how hard I am driving makes huge difference on consumption (as it does with mileage). If towing 5K enclosed trailer at 60 on 2 lane road, the def usage is probably 1/2 of what it is running 75+ on freeway (big difference in mileage too). I have had a 2013 with 6.2, 2016 with 5.3 & now the 2020 with 3.0. For me the 3.0 is hands down the better towing truck.
My biggest bitches with truck are the Def gauge & having to push the stop button every time start truck so it does not shut off at lights when not towing