Okay, mine is complete. For some reason in my feeble brain I had it that the cargo lamp switch was in the center console, even though I have activated the cargo lamps multiple times. Brain fart. Once I aligned my brain, I did decide to go for the switch on the headlight switch assembly. Mainly this is easier to get to than a BCM, won't cause issues if you disconnect the X1 connector on the BCM, and is better hidden, so if warranty work is needed, you don't have to worry about a technician trying to tell you that the warranty is void for a wire plugged into the connector.
So, I went at it. By removing the panel under the steering wheel to expose the fuse box, the side dash panel facing the door, you uncover 2 of 3 screws needed to remove the switch assembly for the transfer case and headlights. Now gently pull on the glossy dash bezel and it will come free from the dash enough to expose bolt number 3. Once you carefully remove it without overstressing the bezel, the switch assembly comes out easily giving you fantastic access to the switch and wiring.
From here it is easy sailing. Pin 4 on the connector is the signal wire to the BCM. Remember, this view below is as if you unplugged the connector from the switch and you were staring at it. If you are looking from behind, it is a mirror view with Pin 1 on the left and pin 12 on the right. When you press the switch, it grounds pin 4 to pin 8, turning on the lights. I merely put my wire from by bed switch (with the solid wire end soldered to the wire as earlier suggested) into the back of the connector with the grey wire in pin 4 and then taped it to the wire bundle to hold it securely. Tested and worked great. Switch in the bed now turns on cargo lamp, bed lamps, and the extra bed lamps that I have fed from a relay from a method in a different thread.
Hope this helps someone.