ok, I studied the system. when the trailer brakes are actuated by the breakaway switch, the power comes from the on-board trailer batteries (group 27 rv type battery). It apparently back fed the power surge into the controller above the spare tire & fried that. ended up changing that and both 30 amp fuses, for the brake feed & the 12 from the truck to the trailer battery.
I purchased a Foxwell NT510 GM scanner and was able to read all the codes & could see the exact sequence of events that fried the controller, actually pretty interesting. After the controller was changed it still gave me a CCM code for lost communication & the fuse was the culprit. When I was on the road trying to fix it with nothing, I had swapped fuses with the trailer battery fuse and apparently that was blown too.
Great code scanner, I want to find resource to read more about how the onboard systems work, Guess that is just the nerd in me coming out!
Will make sure I have the tools & spare parts on hand before I head out on a road trip again.