The Bilsteins will give you a firmer ride. Maybe look into Eibach instead. They are a little softer valving than the Bilstein and not as harsh. I went with the Eibachs to get their 2-1/2” lift springs which are a little stiffer than factory.
There is nothing to set on the rear shocks. Just bolt them on and go.
For upper control arms, I have the Superlift 2-3 1/2” aluminum arms on mine along with 305/65/18 KO3s on 18x9 +12mm offset wheels and I have no rubbing issues with the control arms. Compared to a 265 on the factory +24mm offset 18s, the inner sidewall of my tires is about 8mm closer to the control arms.