My suggestion is that you give up and use a coolant sealer.
I have used this stuff plenty of times, and it has always worked.
Its not going to damage anything, and if it works - it only cost you $12.
Yes, Yes, I know - Band-aids and snake oil are not good- I know. I agree that normally you want to try to fix it properly if possible, but come on - how many times do you want to pull the heads?
I had a lady come to me saying that the shop wanted to charge charge her $3,500 to fix her head gasket. She did not have any money. I bought her a bottle of this stuff out of my own pocket and put it in her car. That was 4 years ago and she never overheats and never has to add coolant. I agree that additives are not always ideal - but they do work in many situations.
Just pour this in, and call it a day.
If it doesn't work, fine take the engine apart again - but you have nothing to loose by trying this stuff.