So this is for the people that look up issues on forums and the OP never posts what the fix was. So this is for them. I'm hoping I have the issue solved. Today I took the truck to the only Napa we have in town cause I was driving by and thought why not have someone else look at it. Got a pretty knowledgeable guy behind the counter to help me. He brought the tester out and he hooked up the truck. fired it up and he scanned the truck. My brand new alt from Orieliys not reman but new only a week or so old was putting out 15+ volts he had me run the truck for a while to get over the initial start up. ran the truck with everything turned off including the lights and it was high 14 volts when I turned on the lights including fog light, Radio, and heater the volts jumped to 15 volts and you could see the headlight on the wall flicker pretty bad. So I ponied up another 175 dollars for an alternator from Napa installed it today. Did the first test drive and noticed the volt meter went back to acting like it did when I first bought the truck. It would be a bit above 14 volts for awhile and then after so many miles it would drop and then continue to drop. it dropped down to around 13 volts. which it did that when I first got it. I had noticed that the last two alternators I got would only drop down to the 14. never any less. thought that was odd. So waited till dark and went did another 10 mile loop around. Turned the radio on heat on would play with the windows and nothing headlights just ran like normal. no flickering of the headlights no strobing.
So for all the people that might be dealing with this issue don't rule out new things from auto parts store. also would not suggest alternators form Orieliys. My first one was good for about a year. second and third bad right out of the box. I did the big 3. spent a lot of time and money and it ended up being the one of the two things that I changed before all these issues started. So if your having these issues I would go and have the battery and Alt tested before you start crawling around looking for things. Just my two cents.
Thank you all who responded. Hope this treads helps someone in the future. I know I hate threads that end with the issue not solved. I just hope this was actually the issue. Only time will tell.