We try as parents to raise them the same. But being individuals, our kids grow into different beings. The consistent parenting works for some children, not so much for others. Some are happy, some not. Some responsible, some not. What most of them will fail to grasp, until they are walking in our shoes with their own kids is that it is us who continue to bear the burdens, emotionally above all else, of their decisions in life. We are fortunate in having raised two kids who are both hard-working and responsible. Both nearing 30 now and, both as yet, single. Don't know if I'll live long enough to see grandkids, I was nearly 40 when our first was born, but I am very thankful that we are blessed on the scale of results of parenting. If we had raised three, who knows how the third one would have turned out.