Your buying off-road spec'd shocks for the street, so its a bit odd cause you will never see the true benefits that a 2.5" body shock offers. The same dampening and ride can be obtained from a 2.0 shock. So its kinda spinning wheels asking for a 2.5" setup. Honestly you would be better off just doing the factory spec'd fox with liner valving and the 550lb spring with 0 preload on it. Or if your 2wd, just get a spindle lift. The main diff between the 2.0 and 2.5 is not ride quality, its oil capacity thus allowing the shock to stay cooler as it cycles its travel more in rougher terrain faster. You could argue piston size helps control things, but for a pure street vehicle it wont be noticeable. You will never heat that shock up to the point it starts fading based on your needs and desired use of the truck.
Its rare because its a waste of $, and on the vendor side of it, its hard because they way the shock is designed to be used and work is not what your asking it to do, so in our eyes, its a complaint and unhappy customer waiting to happen.
To get correct valving, real correct vehicle specific valving, you need video of the suspension working through its entire range of travel, adjust, do it again multiple times. Much more going into the spring rate also. You need your motion ratio, you need to account for GVW at the corner and unsprung weight and then how much inital preload is needed just to support and carry the vehicle weight. You need to account on where you want your ride height to be vs. how much up/down travel you want.
Accutune is great, but without having you and the vehicle there out in the dirt or street, it will never be perfect. "Soft" is subjective and different for every person. But your going to companies who specialize in one thing and asking them to do the opposite. So your gonna get some pushback cause if its not right, its on them and not the customer who had unrealistic expectations.
Im not trying to be a downer, but your over thinking it. Your taking a $2K coilover setup and making it into a $150 monroe.