Let me try to clear some things up here because I can see some confusion. I'm not the God of anything, but I do know my stuff when it comes to towing.
First let's start with payload and tongue weight. As we know payload is amazingly high on our 2500's especially the gassers that are lighter than the diesels. So let's say the 2500 gassers have an average payload of 3500lbs, of which most do. Now that includes everything added to the truck, people, cargo, you name it, everything is added into that payload number. Tongue weight is also included if you have a hitch pulled Travel trailer.
For example, we have a Grand Design Imagine 2800BH. We filled it with all of our stuff, including the fridge, I filled the fresh water tank too (55Gallons) because it is forward of the axles then took it to the CAT scales and weighed that beast. The results were I had 7k on the axles and 1k on the tongue. Believe it or not my rear helper springs were not even contacting the base pack of springs. Not bad at all when you have 3500lbs to play with.
Now, let's talk about 5th wheel and pin weight. 10% of the overall weight of what you are towing is the golden rule. So if your giant ass camper weighs 16k, you are looking at 1600lbs of pin weight that is over the rear axles. Totally different weight placement when compared to a hitch travel trailer. Now that 1600lbs reduces your payload by.....1600lbs. But you still have basically 1900lbs of payload left to play with.
So let's talk about the other basic rule of towing. Stay within 75% of max capabilities for safety reasons. So your 1900lbs, for safety reasons becomes 1425. Not bad at all, actually quite impressive.
You can add air bags, timberens, whatever, just remember those items do not increase your overall payload number. Payload is payload, it's a hard number. Those items might level out your truck and make it ride better, but they never increase your payload.
I really hope this helps others and makes a lot of sense. Safety is #1. The rest is enjoy the ride because these HD trucks are friggen amazing!!!
One other thing I forgot to add is that I no longer use sway bars for our travel trailer. To me they are useless and serve little purpose. Pump your E rated tires up to 75psi, and hopefully your campers have e-rated tires as well. Pump them up to 75psi too. Not a problem at all towing. Sway is minimum and I love not using them. They really are a pain in the ass. The 1500 guys have to use them, us HD guys.....throw them away....they are useless. Just my personal opinion all after towing our camper thousands of miles.
Be well and if you have any questions, I might be able to help.