I'll try and give you some help as best I can since I was in the same boat with the Rigid/Morimoto matching.
1. I don't know exactly what temp the Rigid SAEs are, but I can tell you they're a little more blue than my 5000K 35w Morimoto HIDs (I'm also using the Mini D2S 4.0 retrofit but that shouldn't affect color, just dispersion). From what I understand, the 55w ballasts burn hotter, so they wash out colors by ~1000K, so if you were really obsessive about having the fogs match the lows, that might be your best bet. Keep in mind, if you have the LEDs in the headlights (like my 2014 Sierra), a bluer bulb may not sync up with those which would probably look worse than not exactly matching with your fogs. I tried to get some pictures with my camera, but the humidity is ~100% right now so it'll have to wait.
2. I haven't heard great things about LEDs being able to get the distance that HIDs get. I may be totally off base here, but I thought I read that somewhere. Since the Sierra only has one headlight (thank god), I didn't have to worry about matching those, but I would go with whatever you use in the lows, since they're in the same housing. It's easier to cheat when the lights are in different housings IMO.
3. Again, I can't comment on the Morimoto LEDs, but the D2S 4.0 high beam is like turning the sun on, especially when there are trees hanging over/next to the road. Really fun stuff haha.
4 & 5. I can't speak to reliability since I've only had mine a few months, but I know buying from the retrofit source was a blessing. I called them first to lay out exactly what I wanted to do (they don't have a package for the D2S projector retrofit, which requires different bulb connections etc.) and made sure I was ordering the right stuff. It all came in, and one of the ballasts was bad, and the anti-flicker was bad. I let them know what was going on and they immediately sent me new parts. So, if you're really concerned, it's probably a good idea to have an extra bulb and an extra ballast in the glove box so you can fix it on the spot should the need arise.
6. Again, can't speak to the LED stuff, but it's really not as complicated as it seems at first, especially if you aren't replacing the projectors.
Hope this helps. I'll try to get some pictures of the lighting difference tomorrow.