Another viewpoint:
8k lb travel trailer.
=original TV was '13 tundra, 5.7, tow pkg, 4.3 gears
=Bought '19 chevy 2500 duramax
,=15 months later, traded for 20 gmc 2500 gasser
Gasser is 2000 lbs heavier than tundra empty, and on a camping trip the truck weighs 9700 lbs including 1000 lb tongue wt plus remaining 7k lb trailer wt.
i'm very pleased so far with towing. haved pulled up a couple of 7% grades 2-3 miles long and was able to pass some but not all traffic, nothing like the diesel but completely respectible.
First time i pulled it had some downshift burps but has done fine since then. its a little noisier than tundra but to be expected with weight and
gear difference.
Tow/haul, chevron 89 octane, 10% ethanol
You might have the dealer see if any codes stored in engine or trx.
I think i read gm completely redesigned the axles for strength, so might be hard to do gear swap
I have banks idash left over from the diesel and banks said they would eventually tune this engine.
I really wonder if you have a trx programming problem.