Remember the manual covers DRW trucks, which is why it mentions up to 20,000 lbs. For an SRW 3500, the maximum conventional trailer weight is 14,500, and max tongue weight is 1,450.
In my opinion there is no need to use a weight distributing hitch on a 3500hd SRW at all. The hitch tongue weight limit is 1450 for an SRW, and the payload of the truck is typically about 4000 lbs.
For a 10,000 lbs trailer as an example: Without a wdh, with 1000 lbs on the hitch about 4 feet behind the rear axle, you are putting about 1200 lbs on the rear axle and taking about 200 lbs off the front axle, are fairly close to an ideal 50/50 front/rear weight distribution, and haven’t even “leveled” the truck yet even if you carry another 600 lbs in the bed.
A big benefit of not using a wdh is you are less likely to overload and fail your trailer frame going over dips, driveways, or sudden transitions to a steep incline.
Every pound you pull on the WDH chains is reacted by the ball, and significant additional bending load is added on the trailer A-frame at the front of the trailer due to the torque from the wdh. That is where you will sometimes see frames bend or break.