Not sure why your buddy is feeding you this information about the Bilstein's, unless there is more to his story like doing more to his ride than just shocks that caused his issues. I changed just the rear ones out just after I got my AT4 due to crappy stock ones not up to the task of keeping the rear end planted, only thing it changed in ride quality is that it was much better and felt more secure to the road. Decided to do the fronts just before 10,000 miles, was going to just do the 5100's but figured I only wanted to do it once and didn't want regrets with second guessing, so I went with the 6112 setup. Did notice that the ride did improve as I was starting to notice the stockers we starting to feel "different" from new. Rides better and dosen't have that fade away feel in front and is not hash in any way. Most that have driven it compliment on how well it feels and drives. Did it need the 6112 setup, probably not, but no regrets.
Buddy of mine bought a 2022 Denali 2500 and switched out his to the 5100's after his wife complained on how bad it felt on bumpy road(its Michigan) and she noticed how much better it felt and rode.
-Grover67