Men......I just don't understand them!

Jen · July 19, 2002

Ok guys, this is yet another one of my 'Thursday nite frustrations'. Be prepared to listen openly and know that I am not attacking yall, but I'm just gettin this off my chest.

Tonite, like every Thursday nite, I went to a local club. About 12 of us sittin at a few tables and we are noticing these 3 guys starin at us the whole time. So after about an hour of their staring, I went up and told them that they COULD ask us to dance, it wouldn't hurt. And the guy I was mainly talking to was all "Oh I don't dance" very rudely....so I'm like whatever. I go back to the table to tell everyone about these guys and a few minutes later they come over to us. The guy that was being rude earlier was gettin interested in me, you could say. And to make him shut up I gave him a dance...but wait...I thought he couldn't dance!? This was true...amoungst him stepping on my toes (I had no shoes on because I decided to wear sandals and can't dance in sandals) he starts tryin to mack on me and invited me to his place afterwards for...hmm...how did he put this..."some fun". I tell him no thanks, and he spends the next 30 minutes beggin me to go to his house!

Now guys, I just don't understand this at all. I'm not uptight or anything, but geeze! First you treat me rudely, then you wanna get busy? MEN!!!!!!!

Gig'em Ags!!

Dihappy · July 19, 2002

All i can say is those werent "men"

I have no problem asking a girl to dance, or initiate a converstation.

That "kid" needs a few more years of maturing before he learns how to treat a lady.

MarkD · July 19, 2002

Well said Dihappy!

July 19, 2002

I agree with Dihappy, but you also need to realize this.

We don't understand women, either.

I think God has a twisted sense of humor and made it necessary for two completely different species to interact so that He can enjoy the show.

gmcjoe · July 19, 2002

I agree with Dihappy, but you also need to realize this.

We don't understand women, either.

I think God has a twisted sense of humor and made it necessary for two completely different species to interact so that He can enjoy the show.

chevy4x4trucks · July 19, 2002

C'mon, you can't hold it against the guy that he can't dance. I like to go out and have fun, but my dancing is sub-par at best. I wouldn't worry too much about those guys, besides, it's the weekend now, so go out and have fun.

gandolphxx · July 19, 2002

I agree with Dihappy, but you also need to realize this.

We don't understand women, either.

I think God has a twisted sense of humor and made it necessary for two completely different species to interact so that He can enjoy the show.

Amen, and remember Jen, a table full of ladies is tough to approach, we men don't deal with rejection easily. In any event, the guy sounded like a jerk, you didn't lose anything.

TxDoc · July 19, 2002

" I went to a local club"

That was your first mistake. Don't go there. Be more selective about where you spend your time.

ekonk · July 19, 2002

" I went to a local club"

That was your first mistake. Don't go there. Be more selective about where you spend your time.

Yeah, you could spend your time online instead :sideways: It seems to work for us

But anyway, sounds like the guy was acting like a jerk, and that's probably the best idea he could come up with. Rather than ranting about it, you should just laugh at him. He deserves it.

Jen · July 19, 2002

Hey TxDoc, I gotta dance! The dancehalls are the place to do it!

Gig'em Ags!!

CMNTMXR81 · July 19, 2002

Have you ever heard the saying; "treat women like queens and they'll walk all over you, treat them like a b*tch, and they'll be too busy stumbling over their feet to be with you." or something along those lines. Sounds like this guy was playing that angle. Be rude, uninterested at first, then when you persist (in his mind by you allowing him to dance with you), he switches to Mr. Nice Guy and tries to "work" you.

Sounds like his friends ("wingmen" in guy terms) weren't helping his cause any or at least they weren't on the same gameplan.

Now, I'm a VERY outgoing person and not afraid to make an a$$ out of myself (which is really what you need to do to impress a female...kinda like showing the colors of your feathers), but going up to one female stranger alone is kinda tough. Doable but tough. Now you have a table full of females that you can make an a$$ out of yourselves in front of, and it gets downright intimidating. This is why I HATE going to clubs as most females go in "packs" which discourage what little bit of "gumption" us guys have to be cool, smooth, and suave.

If the group of females comes together then 'disperses' upon entering the club to "roam", then that's a definate green light. But when you all come together, stay at a table together, go to the bathroom together, and generally stay huddled together, it shows a uniform front against us.

SilveradoWV · July 19, 2002

Have you ever heard the saying; "treat women like queens and they'll walk all over you, treat them like a b*tch, and they'll be too busy stumbling over their feet to be with you." or something along those lines. Sounds like this guy was playing that angle. Be rude, uninterested at first, then when you persist (in his mind by you allowing him to dance with you), he switches to Mr. Nice Guy and tries to "work" you.

Sounds like his friends ("wingmen" in guy terms) weren't helping his cause any or at least they weren't on the same gameplan.

Now, I'm a VERY outgoing person and not afraid to make an a$$ out of myself (which is really what you need to do to impress a female...kinda like showing the colors of your feathers), but going up to one female stranger alone is kinda tough. Doable but tough. Now you have a table full of females that you can make an a$$ out of yourselves in front of, and it gets downright intimidating. This is why I HATE going to clubs as most females go in "packs" which discourage what little bit of "gumption" us guys have to be cool, smooth, and suave.

If the group of females comes together then 'disperses' upon entering the club to "roam", then that's a definate green light. But when you all come together, stay at a table together, go to the bathroom together, and generally stay huddled together, it shows a uniform front against us.

WOW!!! That took alot of thought!!! Good Job!

Cyclic · July 19, 2002

I sat and read the replys then I looked at her profile.........

MAN I FEEL OLD!!!!! But, yes I agree, a table full of girls is like a platoon of NVA waiting in ambush.

sincityZ71 · July 20, 2002

I sat and read the replys then I looked at her profile.........
MAN I FEEL OLD!!!!! But, yes I agree, a table full of girls is like a platoon of NVA waiting in ambush.

Yeah, but it is probably easier to deal with the platoon of NVA then a group of women. I smell an airstrike...lol. But I agree, a group of women is one of the hardest things to have to confront to be able to talk to a girl your interested in.

doverarjim · July 20, 2002

The biggest problem was the boys didn't know what to do when a woman comes up to them and tells them what to do. I guess that things have changed since I was a young buck running the dance halls but if a female said boo to me I planted my big arse on a chair at their table and listened to them talk as much as I could to find out who would be the most fun and you can always tell, then I would start dancing with her and before you know it you are dancing with all of them. Jen you just need to watch out for those guys you can scare so easily. Nothing wrong with being up front with some one.