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KARNUT · February 2

6 hours ago, txab said:

One thing you don't mention, are you being paid back for this battery? If not you're truly enabling him. "I'll call Grandpa and Grandpa will pay for it" Draw a line and stick to it, unless you secretly like doing this. C'mon admit it. You like doing what you're doing, which is fine.

My experience, leeches are forever, got to cut them loose at some point. If there are no consequences they'll never change

By the time I was 20 I was on my 1st new truck, second vehicle overall. My kids can do minor vehicle work, but they don't have to as they are successful enough to pay someone else to do it. They keep up with normal maintenance. My grandson 18, is the same way. I didn't give him a car he bought a car from me

It was my daughter’s car. She’s the one who called me. I’ve brought cars or given them my old cars at a discount. My daughter has chronic migraines and a bad back so I help her out. She could sit at home and collect disability she works part time to full time. It’s my daughter’s kid she enables him. He usually visits when she does and I have taken the opportunity since he was 18 to try to teach him to be responsible. It was to the point where everyone was miserable. I pointed out at his age I had 2 kids owned a home and was starting a business. Otherwise he’s a good kid, caring but different. He’s been telling me since he was 10 he doesn’t want to grow up. He’s finally got a job he likes. He doesn’t make much money but it’s a start. But by my standards he’s an idiot. But I was ambitious beyond most people as was the family I was around. I think it’s generational from what I hear.

txab · February 2

After re-reading your post, you're just venting, not really wanting opinion, so I'll drop it other than to say, I think you need to find a way to reach this kid. He probably needs more time around you. He needs goals to reach. Any chance he could do chores around the place?

You can call your own kin whatever you want, I do the same with mine. Now you call my kin "idiot" and it's on!

Good luck

Edited February 2 by txab

Atlas · February 2

For those of you who call your kin idiots, do you feel any shared responsibility? Genuinely curious.

I like the idea of reaching out and finding a way to connect. It's how I survive maintaining a connection with my nieces who I don't understand in the least. It can be done. And holy smokes is it hard sometimes.

I don't like when parents or family call the kids/young adults idiots. Y'all are the only handful of people who can ever truly love them like family, that's the superpower vested in you. It's none of my business, but I can voice my thoughts, right?

KARNUT · February 2

37 minutes ago, Atlas said:

For those of you who call your kin idiots, do you feel any shared responsibility? Genuinely curious.

I like the idea of reaching out and finding a way to connect. It's how I survive maintaining a connection with my nieces who I don't understand in the least. It can be done. And holy smokes is it hard sometimes.

I don't like when parents or family call the kids/young adults idiots. Y'all are the only handful of people who can ever truly love them like family, that's the superpower vested in you. It's none of my business, but I can voice my thoughts, right?

Do you really think I called him an idiot to his face? Do you think anyone here knows him or me? We have a great relationship. He idolizes me because his grandmother is very happy. Sometimes you state your piece and turn them loose. He knows he needs to buck up. No use humiliating him. We connect just fine. They’re all going to be together this Sunday eating grandma’s hoagies like we’ve been doing for all his life. He’s even got friends flying in for the event. It looks like about 30 of us. I don’t need any help from the peanut gallery. My life is full. Every family has an idiot. At least it’s not drugs.

Atlas · February 2

7 minutes ago, KARNUT said:

Do you really think I called him an idiot to his face? Do you think anyone here knows him or me? We have a great relationship. He idolizes me because his grandmother is very happy. Sometimes you state your piece and turn them loose. He knows he needs to buck up. No use humiliating him. We connect just fine. They’re all going to be together this Sunday eating grandma’s hoagies like we’ve been doing for all his life. He’s even got friends flying in for the event. It looks like about 30 of us. I don’t need any help from the peanut gallery. My life is full. Every family has an idiot. At least it’s not drugs.

Isn't calling someone an idiot behind his back to strangers like...twice as weak...as actually telling him what you think of him to his face? Let me get this straight...he idolizes you, but you call him an idiot behind his back? Ouch.

That's the fun part about the internet, you get replies and comments whether or not you ask for them.

txab · February 2

1 hour ago, Atlas said:

For those of you who call your kin idiots, do you feel any shared responsibility? Genuinely curious.

I like the idea of reaching out and finding a way to connect. It's how I survive maintaining a connection with my nieces who I don't understand in the least. It can be done. And holy smokes is it hard sometimes.

I don't like when parents or family call the kids/young adults idiots. Y'all are the only handful of people who can ever truly love them like family, that's the superpower vested in you. It's none of my business, but I can voice my thoughts, right?

I think he was just venting his frustrations. Perhaps he could have chosen a better word. I'll cut him slack. Some people fit the definition.

KARNUT · February 2

4 minutes ago, Atlas said:

Isn't calling someone an idiot behind his back to strangers like...twice as weak...as actually telling him what you think of him to his face? Let me get this straight...he idolizes you, but you call him an idiot behind his back? Ouch.

That's the fun part about the internet, you get replies and comments whether or not you ask for them.

I don’t expect anything less from you.