Would you / could you do this...?

[Daubs]

Here's the background. Been married to my wonderful wife for 14+ years. Have two daughters, ages 7 & 5.

 

I've worked for a university for 5 years, then as a computer dude for two years, then last 7 @ university.

 

Wife is a doctor, and has been practicing for two years now (after 9 years of school, internship, residency).

 

We just moved back to our home town and she has a great job. Financially we are good to go. I don't have to work.

 

Could you do it? Would you do it? Could you give up your job and take kids to school, pick them up every day, run them around to activities (soccer, t-ball, etc.)? Would you want to?

 

What would be your pro's and con's? I know what I'm going to do...okay, am about 95% sure at this point. What do you all think...

[chevy4x4trucks]

i could do it. right now my wife and i have sorta split hours at work, i start at 6 am and she starts at 9 so she'll get the baby ready in the morning and the 7 year old and after work i'll pick up the baby and be here when the 7 year old gets off the bus, then i'm home with them for about 3-4 hours until she gets home.

 

i think its definetly doable. i would try to do some type of part time business tha tyou can do from home though (you said you were an IT guy right?) just to help fill the time, otherwise it might get a little boring during the day when everyone is at school.

 

it's also a good time to get all those projects done around the house. Next year your five year old will be in school most likely so you'll have 7 hours to work on the house/yard.

 

also, you'll be available to chaperone all field trips and what not.

 

like i said, i would do it in a heartbeat. right now my wife is thinking about working from home so we don't have to rely on family members ot babysit during the day and so one of us is home with the kids all the time.

[RyanbabZ71]

I would do it. Id call it semi retired haha. My gf is going to PT (Physical Therapy) school and will be done in 3 yrs. I figure in 3 yrs I will be retired before I am 30 yrs old that would be awesome! I do have a plan on something I would like to start. We will see.

[PELICAN]

I could not do it. I think I would go nuts if I were a stay at home dad. Even if kids were not envoled I would still want to have a job of some sort.

[taco]

Lets see - drop the kids off at school and head straight to the golf course - it would be a sacrifice, but I could do it.

[Elwood 2000]

My wife is an Rx, and I farm. Other than spring and fall, my schedule is flexible. I take the kids to school every day and in the winter, I pick them up. Daycare and especially transportation from school to daycare is a bitch at times and logistics with kids activities is the same way from time to time. In the end, I like the flexibilty that I have the the kids do too.

 

Quit your job and get something going part time, a sideline business or just work for someone in your field on a part time basis. In todays world, the more your kids have their parents, the better off they will be. Two full time careers is tough to juggle with kids and the "daddy time" spent with them is priceless. Besides, when your wife gets home from work and the lawn is cut, the laundry done and supper cooking makes for a happy wife!

[Daubs]

i could do it.  right now my wife and i have sorta split hours at work, i start at 6 am and she starts at 9 so she'll get the baby ready in the morning and the 7 year old and after work i'll pick up the baby and be here when the 7 year old gets off the bus, then i'm home with them for about 3-4 hours until she gets home.

 

i think its definetly doable.  i would try to do some type of part time business tha tyou can do from home though (you said you were an IT guy right?) just to help fill the time, otherwise it might get a little boring during the day when everyone is at school.

 

it's also a good time to get all those projects done around the house.  Next year your five year old will be in school most likely so you'll have 7 hours to work on the house/yard.

 

also, you'll be available to chaperone all field trips and what not.

 

like i said, i would do it in a heartbeat.  right now my wife is thinking about working from home so we don't have to rely on family members ot babysit during the day and so one of us is home with the kids all the time.

 

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Actually, the five year old is in school now, kindergarten. So my days are pretty open between 8:30 and 3:00. I pick the kids up and head to football practice. I'm helping my brother coach his middle school team. Loads of fun.

 

Yes, have lots of projects to complete around the house. It's new construction, so I'm needing storage areas, shelves and stuff in basement and garage. And still unpacking...ick.

[99silveradoz71]

In todays world, the more your kids have their parents, the better off they will be.

 

 

 

 

 

Amen to that. I just shake my head when these parents call our place because Suzy or Johnny won't go to school. They usually end up getting about 1 of 3 options to get there- go with mom or dad, go with me in their school clothing, or go with me in their pj's. So far I've had pretty good cooperation.

 

As for the stay at home, I think I could handle that. I take care of Grandma's yard, my folks' yard, and mine. It's hard enough just finding time to cut those 3 each week. Having more time off would help me stay on top of them, not to mention get other jobs done, as well as spending time with dad since he retired last year. Unfortunately, this isn't a decision I'll have to make anytime soon, no Miss Right in the picture.

[pacodiablo]

i could do it.  right now my wife and i have sorta split hours at work, i start at 6 am and she starts at 9 so she'll get the baby ready in the morning and the 7 year old and after work i'll pick up the baby and be here when the 7 year old gets off the bus, then i'm home with them for about 3-4 hours until she gets home.

 

i think its definetly doable.  i would try to do some type of part time business tha tyou can do from home though (you said you were an IT guy right?) just to help fill the time, otherwise it might get a little boring during the day when everyone is at school.

 

it's also a good time to get all those projects done around the house.  Next year your five year old will be in school most likely so you'll have 7 hours to work on the house/yard.

 

also, you'll be available to chaperone all field trips and what not.

 

like i said, i would do it in a heartbeat.  right now my wife is thinking about working from home so we don't have to rely on family members ot babysit during the day and so one of us is home with the kids all the time.

 

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You got married and had a kid? d**n I have missed a lot.

[NDT guy]

I agree that it is doable it is when you have nothing to do when not workin that things get hard. but with kids and all you will definitly be busy

[R Dogg 56]

i could do it.  right now my wife and i have sorta split hours at work, i start at 6 am and she starts at 9 so she'll get the baby ready in the morning and the 7 year old and after work

 

like i said, i would do it in a heartbeat.  right now my wife is thinking about working from home so we don't have to rely on family members ot babysit during the day and so one of us is home with the kids all the time.

 

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You got married and had a kid? d**n I have missed a lot.

 

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You're not the only one. Jon, when in the hell did you get married? And had TWO kids?!?! Holy s**t! Who'da thunk ?

[Supurban]

Could you do it?  Would you do it?  Could you give up your job and take kids to school, pick them up every day, run them around to activities (soccer, t-ball, etc.)?  Would you want to?

 

What would be your pro's and con's?  I know what I'm going to do...okay, am about 95% sure at this point.  What do you all think...

 

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I would go for it....especially if you are financially ready to work off a single income.

 

It's tough with both parents working. Since my wife and I are in comparable stages in our careers, either could stop working and we would actually be offsetting some the income loss with the savings in child care.

 

I do plenty of running around as it is. But then most of my day is not with my kids since I am work. If I was doing all the running around with the kids, it would be more meaningful use of my time.

 

There is always that "man works, woman stays at home" mentality out there. But if you and your wife already figured out how to provide for your family and spend time as a family, do as you wish! What parent ever really said they spent too much time with their family?...the same one whose gravestone will read "Wish I spent more time at the office"?

[phonedrn8]

I would work for extra money in the pocket and kids and Hobby, though not kill my self 7:30-4:00 not 4:01

 

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[Wingnut]

I would club a baby seal every morning to have that option. I hate working. My friends and family say I'd go nuts with nothing to do...But I think they greatly underestimate my capacity for not doing anything.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah, OK...I would club the seal either way.

[Daubs]

I would club a baby seal every morning to have that option. I hate working. My friends and family say I'd go nuts with nothing to do...But I think they greatly underestimate my capacity for not doing anything.

 

Yeah, OK...I would club the seal either way.

 

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LMAO. Thanks Wing.

 

Ran in to an old HS buddy last night at ball game. He pretty much knows my situation (wife doc and me doing kidds thing right now), but I just don't think he got it. Kept saying things like "oh, I know this guy who's looking for someone good", "you won't have any trouble finding work", "quality people like you are hard to come by", etc.

 

BTW, just got back from week long caribou hunt in Alaska. Been planning for almost two years. Had a great time...and didn't have to beg for vacation time off at work