Covid19 Spare time

[KARNUT]

6 hours ago, Grumpy Bear said:

To the best of my knowledge, we lost no one in the family to a cold, RSV or to pneumonia but we lost several to COVID-19. One of the youngest to get it, my baby brother, was saying his goodbyes under doctor's advisement and had an eleventh-hour recovery into Long COVID. 

 

My maternal grandfather was among the many stacked like cordwood in Arkansas during the Spanish Flu. No refrigerator trucks then. That repeated during COVID in several US cities. Don't believe we could find such an example during an outbreak of the common cold, pneumonia or RSV anywhere in the world, ever. 

 

Neither the wife nor I suffered so much as a cold from 2019 to this date. We isolated as much as possible. Masked up when we could not. Kept our distance always, Wore the skin of our hands with sanitizer, hot water and soap. Refused visits past the front porch and so on. Did it help? No interest in having that argument. But it did change our lives forever in how we interacted with others. 

 

Personally, I put COVID right there with Smallpox, Plague, Anthrax and Ebola and like the cliff, we stay as far away as possible. 

 

 

My daughter came close with lupus getting Covid. We all got it shots and all. My 92 year old father in law basically a shut in got all the shots. Got COVID twice. Probably going to get the shot. Had minor flu like symptoms. 

[Grumpy Bear]

25 minutes ago, KARNUT said:

My daughter came close with lupus getting Covid. We all got it shots and all. My 92 year old father in law basically a shut in got all the shots. Got COVID twice. Probably going to get the shot. Had minor flu like symptoms. 

 

To me, it's uncertain behavior is part of my caution. Couple of my boys got it multiple times. No to bad. 

[Donstar]

I put up some of our Christmas lights last weekend.  We want to keep the spirit of Christmas alive but it will be a very quiet time.  We are Covid sizing Christmas again this year as my wife now has a "just before" Christmas surgery scheduled.  Friends and family express sympathy but she views it as an early present!  On Christmas day she'll be home again and beginning a recovery that will find her much more able come springtime.  Sometimes you have to really work at finding the positive in a situation but there is always one to be found!  (She would make a terrible opposition party leader!)

[customboss]

I got Covid at VA waiting to get new Covid shot and flu shot. Wasn’t fun experience. Took me a week and half to recover. 

[KARNUT]

22 hours ago, Donstar said:

I put up some of our Christmas lights last weekend.  We want to keep the spirit of Christmas alive but it will be a very quiet time.  We are Covid sizing Christmas again this year as my wife now has a "just before" Christmas surgery scheduled.  Friends and family express sympathy but she views it as an early present!  On Christmas day she'll be home again and beginning a recovery that will find her much more able come springtime.  Sometimes you have to really work at finding the positive in a situation but there is always one to be found!  (She would make a terrible opposition party leader!)

While my wife was making arrangements for her mother to enter assisted living (she doesn’t know it yet) we were summoned to Fayetteville N.C. Her father was in the hospital for pneumonia. We just had visited a couple weeks ago. We learned recently he hired a caregiver. Much to my wife’s surprise she was his power of attorney too. Long story short she turned out to be a predator ( also a family members friend) who was in the process of stealing his wealth and home. While trying to visit him we’re trying get her out of his house. Mission accomplished, he’s recovering from near death in rehab. He won’t return to his house. Are goal is assisted living. If he regains strength at least enough to transfer himself. He was still driving 4 weeks ago. He was getting leakage into his lungs when eating. Causing pneumonia. The caretaker should have noticed the decline. Instead speeding the financial takeover. His calapsing and being rushed to the hospital near death. While rushing him around to the bank and lawyers office. Is the only reason her plot was discovered. The bank smelled a rat and didn’t add her to his account. Well I went long anyway. 

[customboss]

6 minutes ago, KARNUT said:

While my wife was making arrangements for her mother to enter assisted living (she doesn’t know it yet) we were summoned to Fayetteville N.C. Her father was in the hospital for pneumonia. We just had visited a couple weeks ago. We learned recently he hired a caregiver. Much to my wife’s surprise she was his power of attorney too. Long story short she turned out to be a predator ( also a family members friend) who was in the process of stealing his wealth and home. While trying to visit him we’re trying get her out of his house. Mission accomplished, he’s recovering from near death in rehab. He won’t return to his house. Are goal is assisted living. If he regains strength at least enough to transfer himself. He was still driving 4 weeks ago. He was getting leakage into his lungs when eating. Causing pneumonia. The caretaker should have noticed the decline. Instead speeding the financial takeover. His calapsing and being rushed to the hospital near death. While rushing him around to the bank and lawyers office. Is the only reason her plot was discovered. The bank smelled a rat and didn’t add her to his account. Well I went long anyway. 

Man that sucks. Mom passed away 2 months ago 1500 miles away. Found out her husband kept her in a house loaded with bedbugs ( which didn’t help a a aortic aneurism that killed her)  since passing no

one without a tyvek suit.can enter. He’s dumb and greedy and boy is he surprised that she really had no wealth. We kids are happy to

let him enjoy the mess. 

[KARNUT]

1 hour ago, customboss said:

Man that sucks. Mom passed away 2 months ago 1500 miles away. Found out her husband kept her in a house loaded with bedbugs ( which didn’t help a a aortic aneurism that killed her)  since passing no

one without a tyvek suit.can enter. He’s dumb and greedy and boy is he surprised that she really had no wealth. We kids are happy to

let him enjoy the mess. 

Sorry for your loss. 

[customboss]

1 hour ago, KARNUT said:

Sorry for your loss. 

Thank You 

[KARNUT]

1 hour ago, customboss said:

Man that sucks. Mom passed away 2 months ago 1500 miles away. Found out her husband kept her in a house loaded with bedbugs ( which didn’t help a a aortic aneurism that killed her)  since passing no

one without a tyvek suit.can enter. He’s dumb and greedy and boy is he surprised that she really had no wealth. We kids are happy to

let him enjoy the mess. 

My father in law didn’t lack visitors at least weekly. Losing his wife just 3 years ago made him lonely for daily contact. He still has even now his wit. When we told him that all his papers were in his car, he finally saw the light and became embarrassed. And  apologetic. All the efforts from us and several other families for him to move in with them were met with I’m not ready. We took him to several assisted living places I was impressed. There’s even a special one for his ranking in Gulfport that goes all the way to a nursing home at a very reasonable price. Not ready yet was his response. These places aren’t just waiting for you, usually there’s a waiting list. We got lucky with the rehab facility. We have 100 days for improvement and the next phase. The social worker and police may yet pursue the (caregiver). We told her if she got out of the house, we wouldn’t.

[customboss]

15 minutes ago, KARNUT said:

My father in law didn’t lack visitors at least weekly. Losing his wife just 3 years ago made him lonely for daily contact. He still has even now his wit. When we told him that all his papers were in his car, he finally saw the light and became embarrassed. And  apologetic. All the efforts from us and several other families for him to move in with them were met with I’m not ready. We took him to several assisted living places I was impressed. There’s even a special one for his ranking in Gulfport that goes all the way to a nursing home at a very reasonable price. Not ready yet was his response. These places aren’t just waiting for you, usually there’s a waiting list. We got lucky with the rehab facility. We have 100 days for improvement and the next phase. The social worker and police may yet pursue the (caregiver). We told her if she got out of the house, we wouldn’t.

He's the Army vet if I remember correctly?  Might take a look at Veterans Admin and NC state veterans homes. If he's looking in other states there

 are some very good ones in each state ( and some very bad ones) the good ones cater to the needs of combat vets pretty well. I am planning to end up planted at one so I don't stress family.  

As a veteran and retired Master Sgt he should get assistance to live there too unloading you and your family.  

So glad they caught her and shame on her.  Where there is $$ and opportunity the scum will come.  Our emotions and loneliness can place blinders on a sharp intellect and not see the enemy within until its too late. 

 

 

Edited November 24, 2023 by customboss

[KARNUT]

13 minutes ago, customboss said:

He's the Army vet if I remember correctly?  Might take a look at Veterans Admin and NC state veterans homes. If he's looking in other states there

 are some very good ones in each state ( and some very bad ones) the good ones cater to the needs of combat vets pretty well. I am planning to end up planted at one so I don't stress family.  

As a veteran and retired Master Sgt he should get assistance to live there too unloading you and your family.  

So glad they caught her and shame on her.  Where there is $$ and opportunity the scum will come.  Our emotions and loneliness can place blinders on a sharp intellect and not see the enemy within until its too late. 

 

 

Thank you. My wife is on it.

[richard wysong]

Be Careful with the rehab care, my MIL was admitted to 1 after suffering pneumonia, contracted Covid there and ended up passing away last month. A good friend of mine went to the same rehab a week after she was admitted and I warned him of the Covid. He inquired and they denied there was any concern until a week later they told him that there was an outbreak. He made it out unscathed. Covid is FAR from over, it's just not in the headlines anymore

[Donstar]

My wife and I took charge of the final years of both of our mothers.  (They both took care of their husbands who predeceased them.)   We became very knowledgeable about the good and bad services available.  Fortunately, we were able to  be there for our mothers and take charge/coordinate their care.   We did our best for our mums and know they left us feeling loved and protected.  If I had to do it over again, I'd listen better.  I am starting to hear comments from others (my kids) that resemble my early observations with my aging parents.  Unlike us, my kids don't live near their parents, and base our stage in life from the snapshots of information they receive.  For example, I complained to my wife that it is hard to put on my motorcycle jacket because of the arthritis in my shoulder.  My wife will often help me or I simply yelp and put it on myself or put on a different jacket.   Somehow, my kids have heard that I need assistance dressing.....    Of course they wonder how I can care for their mother by myself while she is convalescing!  I have had a few deja vu moments when I overreacted with the information my mom was telling me.  I was too quick to fix things when she complained and would take away some of her independence in allowing her to adapt to her changing abilities.  

[KARNUT]

8 minutes ago, Donstar said:

My wife and I took charge of the final years of both of our mothers.  (They both took care of their husbands who predeceased them.)   We became very knowledgeable about the good and bad services available.  Fortunately, we were able to  be there for our mothers and take charge/coordinate their care.   We did our best for our mums and know they left us feeling loved and protected.  If I had to do it over again, I'd listen better.  I am starting to hear comments from others (my kids) that resemble my early observations with my aging parents.  Unlike us, my kids don't live near their parents, and base our stage in life from the snapshots of information they receive.  For example, I complained to my wife that it is hard to put on my motorcycle jacket because of the arthritis in my shoulder.  My wife will often help me or I simply yelp and put it on myself or put on a different jacket.   Somehow, my kids have heard that I need assistance dressing.....    Of course they wonder how I can care for their mother by myself while she is convalescing!  I have had a few deja vu moments when I overreacted with the information my mom was telling me.  I was too quick to fix things when she complained and would take away some of her independence in allowing her to adapt to her changing abilities.  

We had the opposite experience. We want our parents to be independent as long as possible. My mother at 84 still drives her 1 ton diesel ford and lives by herself. My brother lives on the same property a short walk away. My mother in law the same age is a week away from assisted living. That place is amazing. I want to go my wife says no. While we were gone tending to my father in law she started messing up her medicine. Fortunately a neighbor got the medicine and doled them out daily. So the ducks are in the row now every one is happy. The declining signs were there. But the danger signs of being alone didn’t manifest until the last 3 weeks. In my wife’s case two parents 1000 miles apart. With her being power of attorney for both. And during thanksgiving. 

[Donstar]

We also wanted independence for our  parents and wish the same for us.  There came a time in the lives of our last surviving parents that they could no longer care for themselves or be safe.  However, I think I was a little bit of a helicopter son for my mother and am getting some payback from my son!  Example: The daily household "chores" typically done by my wife will be added to my activities while she convalesces.   I suspect my son currently has an image of a Dad who struggles to dress himself and leaving the care of his mom in my hands I doubt is sitting well with him!   It is wonderful to have caring family members but the last thing we need is to be looking after those coming to help. The increased exposure to the Flu or Covid from well meaning visitors, at this time, is also a concern.  My wife and I have a primary goal when major challenges occur and that is to be there for each other.  Everything else becomes secondary.  We have already arranged for the teens next door to look after the property,  a housekeeper to keep the inside clean and a relative to care for the dog.  Physical shortcomings can be compensated by a healthy brain!