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Well, here is my story. The wife has left me and took the truck. She can have it though, she drove it during the week anyway, and I drove the car because I have a longer distance to work. The worst part of this, is I sold my 01 truck so we could get a car, so we could save money on gas. Right after we bought the car, she is like "I want a divorce". I didn't think much of it. So several months go by and when I went to cut grass on a Saturday morning for my Aunt and my dad, she moved out. She took what she wanted and left me the rest, I guess.

 

So now we are going through the whole divorce thing, and I will have to sell the house, which I really like, just so she can get her little share. Bad thing is, that we took a Vacation at the beginning of this year and also I paid off the rest of her school loan with my savings, which was over $11,000. She said that was my choice to do that. I was sad at the beginning but now I am just pissed off at her. :(

 

Sorry for the rant, I will still stick around here, because I do plan on getting a used truck one of these days when everything is settled down.

fbachman Senior Enthusiast

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Man.... sorry to hear that.

 

On the $11,000 school loan payout...yeah, you may have "chosen" to do that, in her mind anyway, but, depending on the state you live in, if the money used to pay that back is interpreted as "community property", you may already have a $5500 credit in the upcoming divorce settlement.

 

As much as this sucks, as hard as it will be, both emotionally and otherwise, don't sell yourself short and find a good, preferably female, divorce attorney and "fight for your rights".

 

ask around, and quick, you need to find an attorney that is a bigger and meaner shark than the one she will find, the sooner the better.

 

At least in my state, based on the stories that have been shared with me by others who are going through, and have been going through, this sort of thing, the laws aren't all stacked for the wife anymore, necessarily. Again, depends on the state laws and whether, or not, your are in a community property state.

 

Keep your chin up....and, this forum ain't going nowhere. We'll be here.

 

:(

jhm Senior Enthusiast

jhm

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look at the bright side, at least you can cut your losses without spending more on her and move on. Best of luck man.

Draenor Senior Enthusiast

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So now we are going through the whole divorce thing, and I will have to sell the house, which I really like, just so she can get her little share. Bad thing is, that we took a Vacation at the beginning of this year and also I paid off the rest of her school loan with my savings, which was over $11,000. She said that was my choice to do that. I was sad at the beginning but now I am just pissed off at her. :D

I bet she didn't stop you either on paying that. She knew what she was doing. She had the divorce thing planned longe before she let you know. You dont have to seel your home weither. I dont know if you have community property in your state, but remember half is half. If you still making notes on the truck and home, half of it is hers. :( Oh...watch your bank account and any credit cards... Get a good lawyer. Did you get served yet?

redvett Senior Enthusiast

redvett

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In most states if you married less that 10 years she will only get a percentage and thats only if she worked. Better get a good divorce lawyer.

Spoonman Enthusiast

Spoonman

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I would not let that 11K go either! Do not let her make you think it was your choice! Use it as leverage, talk to a lawyer, be more informed than her or at least act as if you do. You should be able to negotiate that out of the settlement, or at least a big percentage of it.

 

Good Luck!

 

PS

 

If you really want to piss her off, start dating one of her friends. :(

Nick The Great Senior Enthusiast

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:( Sorry man, that sucks.

 

Let us know if we can help out in any way. I'm no lawyer, and I haven't stayed at a Holiday in a while either. :D

mes Enthusiast

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Well, here is my story. The wife has left me and took the truck. She can have it though, she drove it during the week anyway, and I drove the car because I have a longer distance to work. The worst part of this, is I sold my 01 truck so we could get a car, so we could save money on gas. Right after we bought the car, she is like "I want a divorce". I didn't think much of it. So several months go by and when I went to cut grass on a Saturday morning for my Aunt and my dad, she moved out. She took what she wanted and left me the rest, I guess.

 

So now we are going through the whole divorce thing, and I will have to sell the house, which I really like, just so she can get her little share. Bad thing is, that we took a Vacation at the beginning of this year and also I paid off the rest of her school loan with my savings, which was over $11,000. She said that was my choice to do that. I was sad at the beginning but now I am just pissed off at her. :(

 

Sorry for the rant, I will still stick around here, because I do plan on getting a used truck one of these days when everything is settled down.

Sorry for your troubles man.But it sounds like when everything said and done and some time has gone bye you'll be much better off.It may not seem like it now but you'll be fine and don't let her see how she's getting to you she's getting a nut off it.Just put your head down and push forward I know it easy to say and harder to do but you'll be fine take care.

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I'm sorry but also hopeful for you. I agree with others that you need a lawyer now!!! BUT don't fight too much...try to make it friendly, simple division of community property. The more you fight the more the attorney costs will rise. If push comes to shove just let her have what she took and cut your losses. The last thing I would want to see is you spending more then you have lost on her on lawyers to accomplish almost nothing. Don't sweat the small stuff and try to move this along quickly so you can start on the rest of your life. If you like the house and she doesn't see if you can work something out that will satify her. The only thing you should owe her on the house is 1/2 of the equity and this market that might not be much (for once the cruddy economy might work in someone's favor).

 

I'll repeat...Don't sweat the small stuff. Try to stay focused on the big picture (which is your future).

Zembonez Senior Enthusiast

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Sorry for the bad break... but if she was going... you are better off with her finally gone. Time to move on.

 

As far as the 11,000 buck loan payoff... If she had it before you guys got married, you can make her pay it back out of "her half" of the divorce settlement. If the house equity isn't too much, make her agree that you can keep it instead of her paying you back. It's gonna piss her off but who cares? I know this is a tough time but stand your ground and don't give up the farm. Who gives a crap if she is no longer your "friend" when it is over? She apparently does not.

 

It might also be cheaper and easier just to kill her... but I can't actually recommend that! :D

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